I'm sick of people who ask me to make them movie suggestions and then not comment them or thank me afterwards. I take my time to find a movie that would suit you, then make a little link with the trailer on your facebook, and you can't even thank me or tell me what you thought?
Oh I know what you think : ''They just haven't watched it yet'' well no! not always! I always very carefully make my suggestions. And the other day I experienced something terrible. This chick asked me for advice and I was certain she would love Rushmore. I make her a post with a video and all that. It takes me maybe 5 minutes all in all (long time).
2 days later her facebook status is : ''I wish I was attending Rushmore school'' or something like that (in french) so I'm like WTF you haven't even told me you watched it or anything and now you're claiming this is your life to the whole world. So I'm like ''ok whatever I'll beg for feedback'' and I COMMENT this status and say : ''You do look like Max Fischer'' something like that. NO REPLY. she doesn't even say : ''thanks for the great tip, does this guy have other good movies?'' or even just : ''I loved it thanks'' ...NOTHING.
So I think this girl is cool and though I have a girlfriend (basically a wife) I'm flirting a bit with this chick (nothing serious I just like talking to her, and since we don't see each other so often facebook is nice. We went to the same high school years ago, she's got a phd in some artsy thing so I like getting in arguments with her. I always win because she has no self-esteem. She drinks a lot too like me so that's nice... anyway whatever) sooooo I step on my pride and make her another post suggestion The Royal Tenenbaums, you know it's similar.
Well a week later NADA. NIET. NOTHING. No thanks, no comment...........BUT she fucking posts a youtube vid of the Tenenbaums WTF. Fuck that cunt. I'm never suggesting her a movie ever again.
interesting how you keep going back. while it sounds like she focuses on herself, and i would be annoyed by this too, i can't help but think why give her the time of day. do you want something you can't have? this kind of quality she exudes would be very unattractive to me, and I would not want to flirt with her because of it.
one thing is for sure, that was a roller coaster of a post, my perspective kept shifting throughout reading it. i went from blaming her, to you blaming you, then back and forth a few times. very similar to my reaction to larry david :) so good call on that.
Quote from: Pas Rap on November 14, 2009, 05:46:13 AMI like getting in arguments with her. I always win because she has no self-esteem.
haha.
haha didn't expect any replies
side subject : have you ever received a suggestion from someone you like/love/respect and then it's been a couple weeks and you know you're gonna see them that night so you go on wikipedia and check out a bit what it's about and then pretend you've seen it and even have a full discussion about it? I do this all the time.
i have to deal with suggestion rejection all the time at work. in my early days i used to go through whole sections suggesting 15 or more classics only to be met with "guess i'll just get Grandma's Boy" or something. the other day this happened:
"what's good?"
"In the Loop is one of the funniest things i've seen in a long time."
*hands him the case*
"hmm.. what's it about?"
"going to war under false pretences. it's not just a political thing, though.. it's densely packed with all sorts of funny.."
AND THEN HONESTLY HE SAID
"that sounds exactly like my favourite kind of movie.
*puts back on shelf*
i'm just looking for something more... entertaining."
"..son of a bitch." (but not really)
bonus story:
(to an older guy)
"i loved Two Lovers."
"uhhhh... usually something with that sort of title is reserved for members of the opposite sex... i'll pass."
a while ago someone returned Brokeback Mountain because they didn't realize it was about gay cowboys.
hmmm. i used to have my own video store and i was the absolute best at finding movies for people. Someone would come in, ask for a suggestion, I'd ask them what they like or what they're in the mood for and 99% of the time they would take my suggestion, go home and watch, come back and tell me how much they loved it and ask for something else that i personally recommend. sometimes when i wasn't even at work i'd get calls from other people who worked there asking me for suggestions to suggest to people. this practice got me laid at least a dozen times. i suggested this little 20 year old indie girl watch the royal tenenbaums once, she went home, watched it, came directly back and blew me in the break room; no facebook involved. (this is true, i swear to you).
i guess what i'm saying is that i have no idea what you guys are talking about and can't possibly relate.
squints lol are you serious? I can't believe it really but since you swear I guess I'll try. I guess I just would like a ''thank you'' but a blowjob sure would be nice too.
Picolas lol@favorite kind of movie thing! this post sounds like it could be in the ''stupidest thing you've ever heard.......' thread
oh man now I'm nervous about my wikipedia thing, I don't want to be the only one to do it :(
ha squints you don't give yourself enough credit, i don't think she blew you because of your ability to recommend movies. that would be a slight overcompensation of a nice deed. you gotta ABC that shit like baldwin, and if you're telling the truth it sounds like you know how to close.
pas rap i think you might be the next american psycho. while i find your posts entertaining, i think you're sociopathic. you're directing your own life like it's not real and everyone in it are just characters. creating false empty connections with people. lol of course i'm only kidding, but it sure is calculated.
I probably wouldn't have thought of this if I didn't read this thread this morning but a few months ago one of my girlfriends friends came over with her iPod since I had offered to load it up with music. A week or two after that I saw she started quoting Wilco lyrics in her Facebook statuses and having conversations about them with other people but never brought it up to me! To make things worse, literally this afternoon she came over with her iPod again which was completely full so in order to put whatever music she wanted onto it she was going through what was on it and saying things like "Elliott Smith, don't think I've listened to them, Magnetic Fields, don't think I've listened to them, Pulp, don't think I've listened to them", pretty much all my favorite bands I put on there she was now deleting. It was a major :(
(I didn't say anything.)
she's living in her own irony, because those are the bands she'd be adding lol. wow weekend warriors are annoying.
oh ya side note, wilco are one of those strange bands that i think work better in theory. i only really like the song misunderstood. everything else i want to like but find actually quite boring.
I read this thread a few times before realizing that last Thursday I took a girl to a fancy fundraiser for my job in which maya angelou and danny glover were present. I wasn't necessarily interested in her though she was cute 'cause I didn't know her and I've been just getting good at not falling for every cute talented girl right away. at the end of the night we were on the bus and she told me she'd been insomniac and needed movies to fall asleep. I started telling her about how I had movies and she could come over and check them out sometime, she said ok before I said "sometime" and then it was really awkward because when I finished my sentence I realized it sounded like I added the "sometime" after she wanted to come over that night.
I'm really good at recommending movies food and music or just things in life, but really bad at making them romantic. every good thing that happened to me involving a girl had been a fluke or the Good Lord's mercy. Seriously, I believe that the Good Lord wants young people to hook up otherwise there's no way I ended up with some of those girls. and they're not even freaky.
oh I had a Larry David moment when I saw this fat black girl I knew from down the street and snuck up to her to put my arm around her, she turned around and it wasn't the fat black girl I knew at all - just someone of that size and hairstyle. I said sorry I thought you were my friend Page and she said "PAGE?! But I'm much smaller than her!" She was by no means much smaller than her, but instead of contesting that, I just said "oh sorry, I'm new to the city and where I grew up everyone was the same color, I'm still getting used to seeing different people of different races...it's a beautiful thing!" So I had to play racist for the fat girl to not feel fat.
Quote from: squints on November 14, 2009, 04:05:34 PM
hmmm. i used to have my own video store and i was the absolute best at finding movies for people. Someone would come in, ask for a suggestion, I'd ask them what they like or what they're in the mood for and 99% of the time they would take my suggestion, go home and watch, come back and tell me how much they loved it and ask for something else that i personally recommend. sometimes when i wasn't even at work i'd get calls from other people who worked there asking me for suggestions to suggest to people. this practice got me laid at least a dozen times. i suggested this little 20 year old indie girl watch the royal tenenbaums once, she went home, watched it, came directly back and blew me in the break room; no facebook involved. (this is true, i swear to you).
i guess what i'm saying is that i have no idea what you guys are talking about and can't possibly relate.
HAHA.
EPIC.
I was able to meet one of my current good friends based on her movie recommendation. Years ago, she was working at a Sam Goody and I was just roaming the store. Had no intention to buy anything, but she asked if I needed help and I said no and she made a casual comment that if I wanted to see a good movie, I should buy "Ghost World". It had just come out on video and I hadn't seen it and had little interest to even watch it. I surprised myself by buying the movie on the spot and watching it later that day. Afterwards I realized the director was the same guy who made Crumb (I didn't know at the time) so when I went back, I told her I enjoyed the movie and asked if she had seen Crumb. She hadn't and so I recommended a movie back to her. Thankfully she rented it that week and loved it.
No blow jobs decorate my story, but it's interesting because she is still one of my better friends. It was such a casual moment that had no expectation to be anything, so I had a good recommendation experience. Other than that I'm usually terrible with giving recommendations or following up on recommendations that other people give me. I usually just play up my stupid when it comes to talking movies with people.
Quote from: pete on November 14, 2009, 07:50:41 PM
I said sorry I thought you were my friend Page and she said "PAGE?! But I'm much smaller than her!"
HAHA oh man this actually could be in Curb anyday oh god, too funny!
Good stories guys, I don't want to pat myself on the back but my thread rules.
I was once invited to a "movie party" when I was in high school because I knew of "cool and/or" weird movies. Before the party, I was told that we were watching either Garden State or Napolean Dynamite since they had both come out on DVD about that time, but I was asked to bring something. Sort of as a joke, I only brought Eyes Wide Shut figuring the general group would reject it.
There were a couple cute girls that asked me to go, which was the only reason I would consider going to this party without feeling like I was wrecking it by bringing a movie most people would reject. It was at one of the cute girls' house, so she had veto power over what we watched. She and the other girl really wanted to watch Eyes Wide Shut. One of the more awkward and interesting viewings I've had of it thus far.
Anyway, everyone left after the movie with little or no discussion, the two girls stayed and I got to hang out with them and talk about Eyes Wide Shut. In high school, how many times is one boy going to get to talk about Eyes Wide Shut with two beautiful girls? Shortly thereafter, I started seeing one of them, it moved too quickly for her, she broke my heart and, presumably unrelated, soon joined a mission in California.
This is my favorite thread right now... love Pete's story and the fact that no blowjobs decorate GT's.
I work at a video store and I have to endure shit like this pretty much every day. I hate recommending movies to people I don't know face to face (it's different if you're writing as a critic). I never ask anyone to recommend ME a movie so in fact I find it kind of astounding that a person would need the assistance of a stranger to rent a movie. What, you don't know what you might like? I think people who ask for movie recommendations are lazy motherfuckers who then, after you do them the favor, have the balls to come back to you and tell you if they DIDN'T like it. Some people complain is if I was the guy who made the fucking thing, not only recommended it.
And they're usually lazy even for the act of asking itself. I can't tell you guys the number of lazy fucks who have come to me at the store and asked me to suggest "a good one", or a "very good one". "A scary one", "a funny one", "one with a lot of violence", "a very sick one". Jesus.
I only make an effort to recommend something from my heart when I notice the person is actually interested or has taken my advice a couple of times and we are on the same page. All the others I barely look them in the eye and recommend whatever comes to mind first. I've been thinking about recommending Inland Empire to douchebags as a practical joke.
Quote from: Alexandro on November 17, 2009, 10:32:37 AM
I think people who ask for movie recommendations are lazy motherfuckers
or maybe they're just lonely and they want someone to talk to. this might sound pathetic but when i broke up with a girlfriend a few years back i'd spend a little longer talking to the guys/gals behind the counter at my video store. asking what someone recommends is a quick way to establish their tastes; which says a lot about them imo. in my case I would shoot shit with them about film, or film stuff i was working on. in the process of helping fill that social void I made some pretty cool casual friends outta it. granted i wasn't asking for recommendations exclusively, or hanging around for longer than 15 mins but i think most people like to tell their opinions and give examples of their taste when asked.
Lol it's funny how you seem to take this formality as a hostile exchange. you seriously hate the whole process because of people's reactions to the films you suggest? i think it's kind of a polite ceremonial thing, much like talking to a bartender. it's good connecting with people through art/entertainment. isn't that what we do here? like, in the past, some people have recommended films to me (a hal ashby flick of recent memory pops to mind), which i watched, but didn't necessarily like as much as they went on about it. i guess i'm just not offended if i recommend something and the person doesn't like it. c'est la vie, taste is like that.
no, I don't give a fuck if a person doesn't like something I recommend. I do give a fuck if that person comes back to me and gives me shit for it as if I forced the damn thing on them. That said, it doesn't happen THAT often, because more people are sensitive, rational human beings.
Also, as I said before, it is one thing to recommend a film to a person in a specific way (as in "what Ingmar Bergman film would you recommend to start?" or "I like Al Pacino and would like to see more of his great movies") than try to guess what some uninterested douche is too lazy to choose for himself. "A good one"??? give me a break. Some lazy bastards actually call from their homes to ask for our recommendations so they can just send their drivers to pick up the dvds (rich fucks). It really is disgusting man.
Of course, when doing this crap is part of the job it takes on a whole different level.
I get what you say about costumers spending extra time with the clerks. We all like that. I mean who doesn't like to chat about films with strangers. Even if it is to disagree...but that's not what I meant up there.
Quote from: Alexandro on November 17, 2009, 01:43:15 PM
I get what you say about costumers spending extra time with the clerks. We all like that. I mean who doesn't like to chat about films with strangers.
especially when it leads to oral copulation.
Quote from: Alexandro on November 17, 2009, 01:43:15 PM
no, I don't give a fuck if a person doesn't like something I recommend. I do give a fuck if that person comes back to me and gives me shit for it as if I forced the damn thing on them. That said, it doesn't happen THAT often, because more people are sensitive, rational human beings.
Also, as I said before, it is one thing to recommend a film to a person in a specific way (as in "what Ingmar Bergman film would you recommend to start?" or "I like Al Pacino and would like to see more of his great movies") than try to guess what some uninterested douche is too lazy to choose for himself. "A good one"??? give me a break. Some lazy bastards actually call from their homes to ask for our recommendations so they can just send their drivers to pick up the dvds (rich fucks). It really is disgusting man.
Of course, when doing this crap is part of the job it takes on a whole different level.
I get what you say about costumers spending extra time with the clerks. We all like that. I mean who doesn't like to chat about films with strangers. Even if it is to disagree...but that's not what I meant up there.
touche i get your point entirely, and take back what i said.
Quote from: squints on November 17, 2009, 04:29:09 PM
Quote from: Alexandro on November 17, 2009, 01:43:15 PM
I get what you say about costumers spending extra time with the clerks. We all like that. I mean who doesn't like to chat about films with strangers.
especially when it leads to oral copulation.
specially when they're pretty, naive, smart girls who are just discovering that there's this guy called wes anderson.
Now that I think about it, I'm not too horrible with movie recommendations. I'm never put in the situation of trying to guess what a total stranger would like (thank God), but whenever I do sincerely make recommendations to friends, I always put their tastes before mine. Currently, I'm trying to get a good friend to watch The Proposition. He loves Westerns, Nick Cave's music, but somehow hasn't seen this movie. I thought the movie was vacuous myself, but I'm driven to get him to see it because I know he'll love it.
But also, my opinion on movies matter very little to my friends so I'm not tempted to really recommend my true favorites ever. My movie friends in real life are established in their tastes and my other friends like what they like. They don't care what I think (unless it's me agreeing with them) so I'm never tempted to say anything. In fact, I'm known more to them for liking sports. I get more questions and comments about that then anything. My miscellaneous group of friends, meaning my pretentious friends who tend to think themselves smart of things other than movies, think I am like a fraternity guy so I'm a good amusement for them.
So, my real life is pretty cozy as far movie recommendations go. I'm sorry, but you guys are really the only ones who have to put up with my rants. If most of my friends knew me on this board, they wouldn't recognize me.
true words about the human condition GT. my friends are like that too, if they're not sponges they're rocks. Either they don't give a fuck and let people decide for them, or they know exactly what they like and don't care to hear any opinion. one or two will listen and watch based on insight, and when it comes to art, it's those that i value the most. they give and take.
I am known to my friends unusually as the pretentious film freak. If they only know how low rent some of my tastes get like you guys do.
She done it again. Now she refers Rusty James in her facebook status a couple weeks after I told her she should check out Rumble Fish.
My gf thinks that she's trying to get my attention by always referring to the movies I suggest her in her facebook status thing.
It could be true but I don't understand why she would be all ''subtle'' about letting me know how awesome my tastes are.
My gf thinks that I wouldn't care if it was some guy and she says it's just because I'd like to bang this chick.
Could be true, especially the latter part, but it's still wrong not to thank people who gives you good suggestions. Also, your first comments on the thing should be directed towards the suggester.
My gf thinks that not everyone is obligated to care as much about suggestions-courtesy as me.
Well, if you're not gonna give me proper recognition and respect for my great suggestions than you are not entitled to them. Me and SoNowThen often share stuff and the last thing I suggested him he enjoyed greatly. At 2AM he emailed me : ''XYZ thing is the best discovery I had in 2009, thank you my friend'' something like that. Now THAT is courtesy.
haha, GF's always think the worst.
ok i just watched Woman in the Dunes (147mins directors cut -- O M G)
now i've got three hours in which to watch only one of the following:
The Life and Death of Colonel Blimp (1943 powell/pressburger, 163min)
Ikiru (1952 kurosawa, 143min)
The Wages of Fear (1953 clouzot, 148min directors cut)
suggest one! i don't care if you haven't seen it.
EDIT: nevermind, went with wages of fear.
Doesn't matter now, but I like Wages of Fear the least out of the three. The tension is fine at parts, but feels too forced also because that's all there is to the story. Ikiru is the best and feels like an epic Italian Neo Realist film, but Life and Death of Colonel Blimp is probably one of the most pleasant movies I have ever seen. It's hard to wipe the smile from my face as the characters embark on a happy life journey.
Quote from: Gold Trumpet on March 29, 2010, 11:15:38 PM
Doesn't matter now, but I like Wages of Fear the least out of the three. The tension is fine at parts, but feels too forced also because that's all there is to the story. Ikiru is the best and feels like an epic Italian Neo Realist film, but Life and Death of Colonel Blimp is probably one of the most pleasant movies I have ever seen. It's hard to wipe the smile from my face as the characters embark on a happy life journey.
it's not too late, i pressed stop and have now switched to colonel blimp based on your suggestion!
definitely sounds like a good nice english colourful follow-up after Dunes knocked my ass to the floor.
Ikiru on account of Kurosawa turning 100.
Quote from: P on March 29, 2010, 11:27:24 PM
Quote from: Gold Trumpet on March 29, 2010, 11:15:38 PM
Doesn't matter now, but I like Wages of Fear the least out of the three. The tension is fine at parts, but feels too forced also because that's all there is to the story. Ikiru is the best and feels like an epic Italian Neo Realist film, but Life and Death of Colonel Blimp is probably one of the most pleasant movies I have ever seen. It's hard to wipe the smile from my face as the characters embark on a happy life journey.
it's not too late, i pressed stop and have now switched to colonel blimp based on your suggestion!
definitely sounds like a good nice english colourful follow-up after Dunes knocked my ass to the floor.
Very cool. Be patient and allow your feelings to slip into the quiet charm of the story.
Quote from: P on March 29, 2010, 11:27:24 PM
Quote from: Gold Trumpet on March 29, 2010, 11:15:38 PM
Doesn't matter now, but I like Wages of Fear the least out of the three. The tension is fine at parts, but feels too forced also because that's all there is to the story. Ikiru is the best and feels like an epic Italian Neo Realist film, but Life and Death of Colonel Blimp is probably one of the most pleasant movies I have ever seen. It's hard to wipe the smile from my face as the characters embark on a happy life journey.
it's not too late, i pressed stop and have now switched to colonel blimp based on your suggestion!
definitely sounds like a good nice english colourful follow-up after Dunes knocked my ass to the floor.
Man, it sounds like you're having a great movie day. Dunes is terrific, completely agree. I'd follow Colonel Blimp with Peeping Tom, if I was programming your life.