Everyone else gets relationship advice from you, so baaaaa.
I was dating this girl (yes, like I said in that other thread somewhere, she posted on here as myadopteddaughter). Things were going more than fine. I really connected with her, and it was the first relationship I have had where we both trusted each other almost completely and were very much there for each other.
But, school time is rolling around and she just graduated high school.
So, going into my senior year (and her freshman year of college) she decided that it'd be hard for us to keep in touch. She'd only be attending community college not far form here, and she'd be working a job during the week and an occasional weekend job. After this year, she'd be moving to Atlanta to got to college there, anyway. She told me she wanted to seperate because now is a time in her life when things were happening for her, and she wanted to be single and go into these things, untethered by the resposibility of a boyfriend, I guess. So, she was telling me the whole "It's not me, it's you" lines, and telling me "You were perfect as a boyfriend, but now this is my decision." So I offered my support to stick with her through this. But she insists that we separate so that I wouldn't spend my senior year tied down to the same girlfriend (but it's not like I'll find anyone special at this school, anyway).
No matter what I say to her, she sticks to her resolve. She tells me that it was selfish of her, but sometimes people need to think of themselves more often, especially me. Apparently, I care too much for others and not enough for myself. I usually just go with change, but when she wanted to break up I was so OK with it that it scared me a little while afterwards. Why was I so comfortable wrapping up our relationship, one of the best I ever had? That was probably the wrong thing to think.
So I want to talk to my friends about it, I figure they'll be open and listen to my problems, since I listen to theirs whenever they have any. But everytime I start they stop me and say "Is this about Sarah? Dude, she dumped you. Get over it." So ever since we broke up, I've had no means of purging my feelings, which makes me bottle it up, and I seem much more aggravated about it than I would be if some people I knew would listen. But that also shows me how selfish people don't give a damn about anyone else.
For instance, I evem have a friend who's girlfriend is going to college and he bitches about how he'll miss her, but he and her will wait til after college and get back together. But when I told him it was hard for me to break up with Sarah, they're like "How? Just get over it."
So thank you for reading this, if you did, I feel bitchy for writing this, but it was hard to hold in since no one wanted to hear it.
I guess the question is...should I be more about myself? Should my actions revolve more around me? It just seems that if I trust someone, I only put myself on a pedestal to be let down.
Thank you for your time.
