... where to start? Where to START? Ok, so I've been on hiatus... and avoiding some of these questions like the plague. I've had to re-examine some of my thinking so I hope that my answers are up to par.
1.) Your feelings on plastic surgery, especially breast augmentation, and why women do it?
Well, in my opinion, plastic surgery today should be a non-issue. After how far women came in the women's lib movement of the 1970's (etcetera), you would think that our need for male validation has diminished - but that is far from the case. It seems to me, that women have yet to find the happy-medium between being brilliant, respected, worldly creatures... to the women of yesterday that were safe, comforted, and subordinated within their homes. It's odd... but I've
found that by being smart and outspoken, more men are apt to find me less attractive. When feeling like this, I've turned to my physical appearance for comfort. Although my hair is no longer blonde, and cleavage is not my wardrobe choice for everyday, there was a time where I felt the need to be outwardly appealing... to make up for the fact that every time I said a "big" word... guys would turn around and walk away. Basically, women are just having a hard time discovering that their desirability can transcend their physicality. Because of this, women seem to go to great lengths to attain physical attributes that will give them the confidence and self assurance needed to fit te mold that this society has created for them. In the topic of plastic surgery, it is an extreme form of harmful gender socialization. Think about it, do you want silicone in your Johnson?
- MAC I CANNOT ANSWER THIS! WOMEN WANT TO BE THOUGHT OF AS ATTRACTIVE BECAUSE WE ARE INSECURE BEINGS WHO HAVE BEEN TAUGHT (FROM BIRTH) THAT OUR SELF WORTH IS FOUND IN THE KIND OF MAN WE ATTAIN. IT IS BULLSHIT!
2.) Okay, women wear low-cut tops or revealing clothing knowing perfectly well men will look, then get offended when they do so. Do women just take that risk for looking good, or...?
Oh god... I've been thinking about this one for ages. I know that when I go out to the bar I wear provocative clothing. I've been asked why I wear these types of clothes and I answered that it's considered to be "dressed up" and I feel attractive. I myself don't get annoyed when men look at me - I'm dressed provocatively... why wouldn't they?! But I can see an argument as to why women are offended by leering perverts. It's as simple as the double standard between men going shirtless and women having to wear tops. Just because a woman wants to dress a certain way, does not mean that she's begging to be disrespected. And I know a bunch of guys on here are going to argue that, but no man has the right to disrespect a woman simply because of her body or what she chooses to wear. I take this question personally because I've been grabbed before (very crudely at a party) and it was a humiliating experience. Absolutely wrong. So yes, some women are offended by oglers. They have a right to be ogle-free. Having said that, society is what it is, and things are what they are... so your best bet not to be pestered is to cover up.
I hope that next time you guys are going topless around town, you realise how lucky you are not to worry about - at the least, catcalls - and - at the worst, rape.
3.) Seen "Secretary"? And if so, your review please.
No... but I'll give a review when I see it.
4.) Your definition of 'feminist/feminism'?
Ahhhh... Feminism Thrindle style. Ok, so it's my understanding that there are three main types of feminism. The first is Liberal feminism. This type of feminism endorses equal opportunities and rights for both men and women. The second type is Socialist feminism that works to integrate power among a collective of people (both men and women), rather than in the hands of a minority of men
. And the final kind of feminism is Radical feminism, which pursues the evolution of the human species into one gender (through yes - nip and tuck). Personally, I am a Liberal feminist. I want equal opportunities for both men and women. But I am not naive enough to think that this may actually be possible. I say this in the sense that, unlike many feminists, I do believe that men and women are physically different. I do not deny the fact that our reproductive systems are separate, or that men are physically stronger than women. However, I do recognize the amount of gender socialisation that takes place for males and females and I believe that our thought capacities are identical.
5.) Without taking a test and the obvious 'morning sickness', how can a women tell in her body that she's pregnant?
A woman can usually tell because her breasts become unbearably sore. They get hard and super-sensitive to the touch.
6.) Why do some women stay in 'abusive' (not necessarily the physical kind) relationships when they know it's not healthy for them and they should get out of it?
Good question Mac. I'm going to let this apply to both men and women. I believe that all people have tools
. We've got the survival mechanisms we need to get by. Unfortunately, some people have more tools than others, and sometimes our tools only let us survive (bare minimum, no extras). Many people stay in abusive relationships because they are not conscious enough of the actual situation to get out. If you cannot see that something is wrong, why would you leave? I personally believe that people fear leaving the comfort of an abusive relationship. They know how to dance the dance. Although it is dysfunctional, there is comfort in knowing your role, and understanding the unspoken agreements that go with it. For example, I'll let you hurt me if you promise to never leave; or, you don't bother me about my wieght, and I wont question you about your whereabouts. There is a fear of a healthy relationship when you are in a dysfunctional one, because a person may not know how to do it. It means changing your life, changing your thinking, changing yourself. There is always
comfort in consistency.
7.) Name some strong, positive female characters (not the actresses playing them).
Damnit this one was hard! I thought and thought, and I noticed a trend... many strong female characters become weak in the face of men.
I really love Annie from Bull Durham and I love Lisa from Girl, Interrupted. Although they are not conventionally "positive" they have strength, and they live as they choose. Yes, Lisa is in a mental hospital, but she is there largely because of her enormous personality that does not fit in the stifling era of the 1960's. And as for Annie... all I can say is "breath through your eyelids".
How important is it to be funny? Either around a significant other or just around friends, is it important to be funny most, if not all, of the time?
I don't know if it's important to be funny all the time, but it is important to have a sense of humor! I am not the funniest person, but I can laugh at other people's jokes and appreciate the craziness that we all live in. There are times to be ridiculous and times to be serious. I think the most important thing is that people gravitate toward someone with a light heart and a big smile. There are so many things to cry about, everybody needs a little laughter.
Is being in a very...erm...un-funny/serious mood considered boring and therefore make the people around less interested in hanging around you?
Ok... there is also a difference between being serious and depressed. I make it no secret on the board that I often battle long bouts of depression. There have been times in my life where my world has gotten rather small because people chose not to be around me. It was not for lack of love, but rather, they couldn't stand to see me hurting, and they couldn't help but get pulled down too. People will follow the frequency that you're on. If you are on a negative frequency and emitting negative energy, people tend to get bogged down too... and then repelled. That's why being positive in life is so essential, because it draws like-minded people toward you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being serious... but if your seriousness borders darkness... you have to let the people you're with know that you are not at your best.
And what does it mean when a guy calls and leaves a message with a girl he's known for a while who said that she wanted to hang out and talk with him but hasn't called back in almost a month?
It means that she's gotten busy... gotten a boyfriend... lost the message... etcetera.
1. Is canoodling a Canadian term for humping?
No. It is Thrindle's term for the Act of Loving.
2. Was this thread created because the male members of Xixax have determined that you are the least threatening female member of Xixax, so now they feel free to poke and prod at you like an animal in a zoo? Why or why not?
No, dumbass. They are getting free advice from the opposite sex... in a very revealing manner. Furthermore, I am not the least threatening female member of xixax, I'm the one that takes the least amount of shit.
3. Explain Canadian bacon.
Can people change or are we forever the same ?
Oh Pas... we are here to
change. The beauty of human beings is that we learn from our mistakes. Think about it, you are not the same person you were a year ago and neither is anyone else. If you were meaning, do we become "better" people over time... there is no real answer to that. Truth is, some people may get worse. It all goes back to what I was saying about tools
. We learn more tools for our
needs... they may not be of any use to anyone else though.
How many people here do you think consider you as the ideal woman ?
Only one that I know of...
1) Can you bring yourself to watching Fullscreen (unless Widescreen's not available)?
I think it depends on the movie.
2) What's your favorite director's name (Not abilitywise,but what name has the coolest ring to you)?
John Cassavetes or Martin Scorcese or Quentin Tarantino
3) Favorite candy?
mmmm... Skor Bars...
4) Worst habit?
Singing far too loudly in my car with the windows open at stoplights.
5) Do you like answering so many questions?
When I have the time - it's great.
6) Is canoodling back in session as you're typing that in, or is there another reason that delays you from responding right away?
I was having a break during what seems to be a two week long canoodling marathon.
Thanks for the questions you guys. I actually enjoy answering them even if I can't get to you in a reasonable time.