1.) Is it really better to have lost in love than never to have loved at all?
I've thought long and hard about this question. And while I was pondering, I remembered a time where I said, "I am black inside. It's as though I'm charred and burnt, and nothing will grow here again. I'm dead inside". Though that seems dramatic, it's the truth. There was a time where I hated love, or the idea that I had loved. But in time I began to regenerate, and as I grew, I realised how grateful I was for my love. Although it had hurt, I learned so much about myself. The problem wiht people is that we cannot truly know ourselves, unless we interact with others. A person would have the mind of an infant if he spent his entire life alone and without personal contact. So I began to understand that the next time around, I would understand myself enough to give different parts of me. Not to keep guarded, but to divulge myself and my truths, when it was right for me. So far this has worked.
Another thing about heartache is that people who have loved well
, tend to get the brunt of it. But think about it, wouldn't you rather have loved well
, than to have barely scratched the surface of an emotion so extraordinary?
2.) Does size really matter?
Honestly, no. I admit to having some (ahem) expertise in canoodling... and the ladies who say that size matters, are only saying that because all they've ever experienced is a jackrabbit (in-out-in-out). For the "jackrabbit" size is necessary because no skill is involved. What is much more important is the intimacy used in canoodling. Good foreplay, intuitive foreplay, not robotic pre-planned methods
, is the key to good sex. Seriously, being able to talk to the person you are with is the most important. I've experienced big and average. Average was the way to go... why? Because average guys are more about their
involvement in the process... than what their weiner is doing... (sorry if that was too much information)
3.) Does the size of a man's wallet matter to a woman?
Sadly enough, to many women, yes. Many women (and men) are shallow enough to pursue financial interests, as well as romantic ones. If you are a shallow person, chances are you are going to pick up people on the same frequency that you vibrate on.
But more realistically, women really want security. They want to know that they could build a life with you, and be alright. They want a hard worker, someone who is decent and has integrity. Most women would rather a real man, than a pocket book.
4.) Does age matter?
It all depends on the person. I believe relationships are a two way street... if you're dating someone because you get to be in the driver's seat, then that's a problem. But if the person you are with is not the same age as you, and you connect on the same mental level... go for it! Do it up!
5.) How does one prevent 'coming on too strong' with a woman?
I think coming on to strong is often affiliated with "neediness". Women want someone who is comfortable in their own skin. It not attractive to have someone seem dependant on you... especially in the beginning. To prevent coming on too strong can be done by staying in the moment... trying not to fret... not taking things personally... enjoying yourself... and loving yourself enough to know that this person is not the only one...
6.) What's the best way to approach a woman? 'Lines' don't really work, do they?
Lines do not work! You know why? Because women with half-a-brain can't take them seriously! My never-fail attempt: is the "smile". Is the "hi". Is "eye contact" (and goddamnit that can be hard).
But seriously, if you sort of know someone, and have an idea as to what they are interested in... ask them out for that. Movies, poetry readings, insanely good sushi, book signings, plays... etcetera! If you want to come on to a woman, come on to her mind. Never fails.
7.) Your feelings on the word 'bitch'?
I am the quintessential bitch. I love the word myself. Why? Because I feel that women have taken the term and morphed it into something beautiful. A bitch is no longer a bad thing. A bitch is about being in control of one's self. A bitch is speaking her mind. A bitch is having an educated opinion. A bitch is not afraid to be active and fight for her own beliefs. A bitch is a woman who has actualised her person
what are your feeling on drugs?
I'd be a hypocrite if I said drugs are bad, don't ever do them!
Right now in my life I'm finding that they aren't serving me. I don't like who I am when I do them. I'm also finding it difficult to admit that there is no such thing as a recreational coke user... now how to get my friends to understand that...
Wow that was honest. and the hardest question to answer